Being invited to a wedding as a guest is a great honour. Weddings involve meticulous planning, many decisions and thorough consideration well before you’ve arrived to the location. Through my many years in the wedding industry, observing the challenges couples encounter with their guests I’ve devised this comprehensive list of what to do and what not to do, to be considered the most gracious of guests!
Arrive on time. Perhaps im stating the obvious but arriving too early or too late can be problematic. Often, if guests arrive too early there isnt a whole bunch of options for entertainment for those guests so arriving at the specified time is usually the best option!
Read the website or invitation. Your couple have spent hours thinking about where they suggest you park, fly into, where to stay or which taxi to book for your journey home. Texting or calling your couple the days before to ask these queries again to them, can be stress-inducing!
Respect the invite boundaries. If your invite doesn’t explicitly include a ‘+1’ dont assume you have this included. Weddings are both an emotional and financial investment and adding people on here and there can disrupt the plans. The same goes for the assumption children are invited. If the invitation states the couple would prefer an adult only wedding, respect this.
No gifts means no gifts! Perhaps your couple have stated this because they’re not local to the venue and can’t transport them home or maybe they genuinely don’t want them. Either way, its best to listen to this one too.
Listen to those working. Your couples photographer/planner/videographer is working on behalf of your couple (*we’re not making it up, promise!) If you are asked by the photographer for a moment of your time for a group shot, your couple have requested this! Similarly with your planner, if we ask you to take your seats or move into a different space, we are asking because its all part of a well-thought-out plan- trust the process.
And lastly, enjoy the party! Join in with as much as you feel comfortable doing and celebrate with your couple. They’ve put on a celebration of a lifetime – join them
As an award-winning UK wedding planner, I’ve learned to trust my intuition. I’m all about cutting to the chase, keeping things stress-free and streamlined, and diving right into the details and the bits that make you the most excited. My wedding planning approach is led by the desire to understand you as people. You will see my style of weddings varies from client to client, but what links each celebration is the way it’s an authentic and gorgeous reflection of the couple it’s designed for.
When you plan with me, you’ll know I have your best interests at heart. Designing, producing and delivering your wedding in a warm, efficient and no-nonsense way to ensure you remain the centre of these celebrations!
Your enjoyment of your planning is the most important thing to me – I am your sounding board, confidante and friend during our time planning together, bringing your event to life with directness, integrity and genuine joy. We begin as strangers but will part as friends, and I for one can’t wait to get cracking.
If you’d like to chat about how I can help you plan your marquee wedding, do reach out so we can chat more.